If you ride together with other people or you are in a place where people can look when you are riding, You might wonder how the others are thinking about how you sit on the horse, and how good you are riding your horse.
That is very comment and I would say that it is 99% of all riders who would be thinking that way.
There is nothing wrong about caring what other people might think, because it will help us to provide and get better and make us think about how to ride in a better way. The problem is not the thought in it self, but how you recieve it and what meaning you give it.
Our thoughts can go far in imagination, about what other people think about us, and it can make us fell useless or dum, but it could also get you to improve instead.
If you see a couple who are waching you and you notice that they are talking together, you would often think that it is you who are the target and you are shure they are mention all the things you dont do right at the moment.
BUT maybee they are not talking about You at all…..
Equestrian people though are very kean about their horses, and most of them think that the way they treat their horse, is the best way to do it. You can alwayes get a ”good” advice, how to ride, or how to feed Your horse, even if the person is not very educated.
Sometimes the less educated the more they want to give advice. You will have to realize that it is not the advice in it self, it is how you recieve it.
It is easy to get frustrated and angry if somebody, you know is not very well educated, tryes to convert you to do as they want. You can´t affect the way they are thinking, but you can decide how you are going to recieve it.
As a rider you will never ever learn it all, its a journey, and even with a whole life with horses, you will never know it all.
So it is simply to accept where you are on the journey, and try to move foreward. Listen to what they have to say. Maybee you can use it, and if you cant, then dont!
You will never move foreward if you dont listen, maybee you could learn something, you will never know.
Just dont listen to garbish, and if anybody speaks bad about you, ask them directly, why. Mostly it is people with a bad selfconfidence, because if you are well educated and know that you are good at riding, you dont have to talk bad about other people.
Just think that you are going to learn and be comfortable where you are, as long as you are nice to the horse, then you are good.