I hope you laugh a little here, because of course you do not, but ….
Buying a new pad for the saddle (horse) is an expression of the fact that you both want well and would like something nice to look at. To want something nice to look at, should not be underestimated, our whole world is built on it.
You choose colors, interior design, husband, horse, yes practically everything based on appearance. It is completely normal that you want something nice to look at.
Then there are different tastes, and it’s great that it’s so, otherwise we would choose the same interior, husband and horse 🙂 When we then have something nice to look at, then we want to use it too, so it will be useful.
When you have then put on the pad on the saddle and saddled the horse and the lump comes back in the stomach when You realize that it is only the rider who is missing.
If you have lost the motivation or courage to ride, you will in that moment, realized that the pads will be dusty dirty and possibly the mice have been eaten it, before you start to ride properly again.
How many nice pads did I not had lying and thinking …. soon I will.
It took many years before I got started again, and have thought that if I had spent that money on getting help instead, it would have looked very different.
I managed after many insecure years to get started with the horse again, and then the pads were not so nice anymore, but ask me if I care 🙂 The horse is still pretty:)